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Life Lessons Learned From… Moving On

I originally planned to publish this blog post on the eve of whenever I happened to start the next exciting chapter of my life. It was to be a cause for celebration after a long and hard battle won. Now that my original deadline has passed and said chapter still remains in the draft stage, I had to re-evaluate what I was going to do with this post.

Recently, I poured out all of my fears and frustrations after facing a devastating setback. I felt so inspired by the outpouring of encouragement, support, and love I received from friends in response. When I am surrounded by darkness, my friends are always there to help me see the light, and I am truly blessed to have them in my life.

One friend brought something to mind which I found to be perspective shifting. The way we measure success tends to be limited to whenever we reach significant Facebook-worthy life events. Landing the promotion, getting married, starting a family… all the landmark milestones you share on your timeline and watch as the likes pour in. But why don’t we treat our moments of personal growth with the same regard and value? How have you transformed from the person you were ten years ago to the person you are today? What challenges did you overcome through hard work and dedication? How has the way you see the world evolved and expanded? Let’s not forget to measure our success by how much we’ve achieved and how far we’ve come along the way to hitting those milestones.

2017 has been filled with ups and downs, triumphs and heartbreaks, accomplishments and disappointments. Every goal unreached tests my ability to get up, persevere, and move forward in the face of hard blows. This whole idea of growing through what you go through in life is what keeps me moving along this obstacle course and moving on toward the next big thing. I realized I don’t need to wait until I’ve reached that big milestone to share what I have learned over the past year, because my success story has already begun. So, here goes….

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Life Lessons Learned From… Kicking the Elephant Out of the Room

Death. Illness. Divorce. Job loss. We will all inevitably encounter hard times through devastating losses in our lives. It is through how we deal with our grief and eventually rebuild from tragedy that we discover the full capabilities of the human spirit. Someone who has known this well over the past two years is Sheryl Sandberg.

In Sandberg’s latest book, Option B, the Lean In Foundation founder and Chief Operating Officer of Facebook draws from the experience of her late husband’s death to open up the discussion around building resilience in the face of adversity. The concept of post-traumatic growth and finding greater strength and deeper meaning in the wake of crushing blows resonates with me. In particular, I found the chapter on kicking out “the elephant in the room” to be most profound. During a loved one’s time of bereavement, we tend to avoid discussions on loss and grief, which, will well-intentioned, can actually have the opposite effect of providing comfort during tough times. This is a hard truth we need to rectify.

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Life Lessons Learned From… Volunteering

Learning the importance of ‘We’ with The Writers’ Exchange

One of Quietly’s resolutions for 2016 was to find a cool cause to get involved with. The two qualifications we looked for in our search for a compatible non-profit organization were

a) something based within our local community and

b) something related to our passion for words.

Since January, the Quietly Qrew has been volunteering with Writers’ Exchange, and wow, talk about a match made in heaven!

Based in Vancouver’s Downtown Eastside, the organization aims to get inner-city kids excited about reading and writing through free, fun, and creative activities during in-school and after-school literacy programs.

At its core, content marketing is about telling stories that make an impact. Our team was stoked to dig deep into the ethos of our company’s values and help guide these bright, young storytellers as volunteer literacy mentors. Little did we know how much our efforts of giving back to them would come back to benefit us as a team and as individuals.

The majority of the kids involved with Writers’ Exchange do not have an adult at home to help them with improving their reading and writing skills, so having the guidance and support of volunteers makes a huge difference in their lives. Some literacy activities from previous sessions include creating the origin story of a superhero’s superpet and navigating through an owl-themed scavenger hunt. Activities as imaginative and wacky as these break through the barriers that make kids hesitant to engage with learning.

As we’ve learned from working with the kids during these past five months, patience, practice, and persistence makes progress, and the growth in the skills and self-esteem of each kid has been amazing to witness.

Our involvement with Writers’ Exchange has provided us with a new way to strengthen our cohesion and connection as a team. Every week, two of our team members head over to their HQ to join the band of after-school volunteers in working with the kids on the activity of the day. We mix up our scheduling rotation each term to allow for our staff members to partner up someone new every few weeks, allowing us to bond with each other outside of the workplace. At the end of May, the Quietly Qrew participated in Writers’ Exchange’s Hastings Hole-in-One mini-golf tournament fundraiser as volunteers and as players, adding to the wealth of fond memories we share as a work family.

In taking a break from our work routines and office environment, our team is given the valuable opportunity to switch from the hustle and bustle of work mode to kid mode. By interacting with children and seeing the smiles on their faces after spending quality time with them, you’re reminded of what truly matters — the simple joy of living in the moment. As one of our colleague’s reflected after one of her volunteer shifts, appreciating time from a kid’s perspective after a long day at work provides a revitalizing boost to one’s own productivity and mindfulness.

Having a chance to collaborate with a mix of like-minded people from different backgrounds and a shared interest in children’s literacy has allowed us to connect with the community and make new friends. From the sweet, patient, and enthusiastic volunteers to the cheerful, witty, and dedicated leadership team behind Writers’ Exchange, we’ve greatly enjoyed building relationships with this group and look up to all of the adults involved in running the WE show as generous, inspiring, and overall fine folks!

The biggest objection discouraging companies from getting involved with volunteer initiatives is time. For employers, their employees’ time is money. As a wise volunteer was once quoted as saying,

“Volunteers do not necessarily have the time; they just have the heart.”

During Writers’ Exchange’s past winter term and ongoing spring term, our team has been able to devote two hours every Wednesday afternoon to playing, reading, and writing with the kids. Seeing as time is the greatest gift one can give, we at Quietly highly encourage working with the right organization to create a schedule that works for your team.

Through WE’s flexibility with incorporating our company’s limited time and resources, we’ve been able to participate in the most incredible volunteering opportunity imaginable, and for that, we cannot thank our good friends enough!

Writers’ Exchange is currently recruiting Literacy Mentors for their summer and fall programs. If you’re interested in getting your company involved in WE’s corporate volunteering program, visit their website for further information.

Life Lessons Learned From… August 2014

August kicked my ass.

The entire month was ridden with death, suffering, anxiety, and pretty much every terrible situation and miserable sensation imaginable. Between saying goodbye to someone who I really cared about and watching the one person who means the most to me face even more health challenges, my heart was broken and my spirit was shattered. The news stories this month were just as depressing, what with racial tensions in Ferguson, Missouri and the death of actor Robin Williams. In these trying times, my faith in life was put to the ultimate test. I wondered, why should I have hope for a world, let alone trust in a higher power, when good, innocent souls, including the people I love, are put through the ringer of pain, or are taken away forever? How am I expected to hold on while being ambushed with awfulness all around? What is it about life that makes the sadness, the anger, worth it?

People.

I was saved by people. If it wasn’t for my support system, I would have been consumed by my grief and my fears. My friends were there to lend an open ear, impart words of encouragement, provide the smiles and laughs to lighten things up, and offer to do anything they can to help alleviate the situation. When it comes to shared grief, it’s amazing how people who are hurting collectively come together to give each other love and strength, reminding us all that we never have to experience these worst moments alone. The gratitude I feel towards these phenomenal people is overwhelming.

What did I learn from August 2014?

We may not have control over the bad that comes our way in life, but we can control how we go through the dark days. We are strong on our own, but stronger together, and strongest when we take care of each other, stand together, and fight back together, as one.

See you soon, September. I’ll be coming up swinging.

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Life Lessons Learned From… University

It’s graduation season! As students celebrate the end of their studies and get ready to move on to the next phase of their lives, it’s time to reflect back on memories made during their university experience.

After six years at Simon Fraser University, I have quite the rich collection to draw from. Throughout the good and the bad, and the sweet and the challenging, there was always a profound lesson behind everything I encountered along the way to the final stop of this journey.

Before I depart from this post-secondary community and venture off into the real (and daunting) world out there (*gulp*), here are some words of wisdom that I’d like to pass on…

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